If you want to make your child happy, but at the same time educated and educated, then read the following helpful tips and recommendations ...

♦Love your child for who he is!

♦ Do not punish your child! When it's bad for us, we do not start to behave better but start lying to hide our own failure.

♦ Trust your child! We do not want to deceive the one who trusts us, and we strive to be even better, to do good deeds, to do good deeds.

♦ Respect your child. Remember that we respect those who show respect to us.

♦ Do not look at the baby from the top down, squat down when talking to him - so it will be easier for you to understand each other.

♦ As often as possible hug your child (at least ten times a day), caress him, stroke on the head. But do it when he is ready to accept your affection.

♦ When your little child offers you help or wants to do something by yourself, give him that opportunity, even if you are sure that he cannot yet cope with such a difficult task, praise him for every little thing he could do.

♦ Praise a child when he does something well, notice even the little things in which he is successful, because "a kind word and cat is nice," and for the sake of praise the child will be willing to try to do even more, even better.

♦ Often praise your child for every little thing, explaining why you praise him. Give him pleasant definitions, fixing good behavior: "diligent student", "creative boy", "neat girl", "persistent person", etc.

♦ Do not scold your child for doing something wrong. Find in his actions a positive intention, praise him for what he did well, and then tell me what could be improved - and show how exactly (OSWC).

♦ Separate for yourself first of all the attitude to your child and to his actions.

♦ If you teach a child to tell his parents about his torment and tell you that you experienced something similar at his age (and usually that's the case), then some of the childish fears will disappear by itself.

♦ Accustom the child to order from one and a half to six years. Then it's much harder to do.

♦ If the child has asked for help, support him, help him see what he can do himself, and what he really needs your help with, and help in this.

♦ Tell the child about their successes and failures and their feelings about this. Let him know that parents can also be wrong and upset by it. Ask what is happening in your child and how he feels about it.

♦ Be always on the side of your child if there is a conflict with strangers and you had to intervene. If you think that he is wrong, tell him about it later, alone, using SISC.

♦ If you have something to disagree with your child or something that upset you, tell him about it privately, using the principles of SISC.

♦ Accustom the child to pay attention to the process. It is important to know how the drawing process leads to a beautiful drawing and the process of solving a problem in mathematics to knowledge and fives on this subject. Let him note that he is pleased to do, and what does not like, then he will feel the connection between the process and the result.

♦ Have faith in your child. Know, your faith in his strength helps him to be successful.

♦ Do not compare your children. Let them be different. If they do not have to share you, they will always love and support each other.

♦ Remember, when you have a younger child, the eldest is still a child, who needs caress, care, attention, the opportunity to feel small.

♦ Ask the younger child what he can do to independently resolve the conflict with the elder, what he can do to make the elder happy and interesting to communicate with him.

♦ Create the conditions for the younger child to be of real benefit and could choose the area in which he can be useful, starting from early childhood.

♦ Respect the territory of each of your children. They equally have the right to immunity to their belongings, regardless of age.

♦ When asking the child to stop doing something, tell him what you want him to do instead. You will be surprised at how intelligent and obedient your child is.

♦ If you can not prohibit something, legalize it, but within certain limits. You can paint on the wall, but only on one.

♦ Do not try to force the child to read, if you yourself never do it with him, and clean up your things if your clothes are lying around the whole apartment.

♦ When we punish children by forbidding us to play computer games and forcing them to read instead, reading becomes punishment, and the computer is a sweet forbidden fruit.

♦ Teach your children to make their own decisions, make choices, take responsibility.

♦ Consult your child about your family: what to cook for dinner, how to spend a weekend, what furniture to buy in a room, etc.

 

♦Help your child learn that he can influence his life. If something does not suit him, he can change it.

♦ Give your children the opportunity to make their own decisions, trust them and support them in their choice.

♦ If your child is offended, ask him for forgiveness and tell me how much you love him. A parent who is able to apologize to a child arouses his respect, and the relationship becomes more intimate and sincere.

♦ If the child is rude to you, encourage him to talk to you every time, discuss with him what he likes and what does not like about your communication with him.

♦ Be sensitive and careful with your children. Remember that parental prescriptions are the most powerful settings that a person receives and that can help him in life or, on the contrary, slow down his success and create serious problems.

♦ Tell the child that you love him!

 

Psychologist, Inna Sileno