How to raise from a son a good father and a strong man

 

• All to do in order that the son had a full father. If you can not get a joint life with a man, but he is not burdened with serious moral defects and bad habits, it is entirely conducive to intensive contacts of the son with the father and his relatives.
• To protect the authority of the surrounding men, not to undermine him by nothing in disparaging remarks and harsh comments, especially on insignificant occasions.
• Encourage in every way to communicate with true men of honor, who truly respect themselves.
• With his son to talk in an adult way, respectfully, based on the understanding that before you - a full-fledged person, only a little lived.
• Do not dismiss annoying questions, take them seriously and answer them as thoroughly as possible. To proceed from the fact that boys do not have naive or premature questions, there are incompetent, unintelligible, arrogant answers.
• Listen to your son carefully, but do not encourage excessive talkativeness.
• Do not lisp. Do not take care of your son too much.
• Every year, entrust as many operations as possible for self-service, and then for the benefit of the family
• Do not stop the business initiative, even
• if this threatens some damage (for example, a broken cup).

 

• Do not drive the boy away from men who are engaged in some business (father, grandfather, the elder brother, etc.), on the contrary, if possible, attach to simple operations in the household and work with those
• nickname.
• Follow the balance between praise and criticism.
• Do not groan at the sight of the son (grandson) scratches, abrasions, bruises and other minor injuries, do not scold them, but calmly process the wound, saying something like "before the wedding will heal."
• From the age of 4-5, weaning should not be rushed to seats in public transport, on the contrary, to give way to women and elderly passengers, including my mother.
• Even at the preschool age, begin to introduce his son to the course of their affairs and problems, causing sympathy and empathy. Whether a good father will grow out of a boy, you can judge by the way he is a son.
• Every day from infancy - gymnastics with a gradual complication, first in the apartment, then whenever possible on the street. Exempt from physical education lessons at school only with a clear threat to health. Before school, teach to swim, ski, ride a two-wheeled bike, play volleyball in a circle or another game with a ball.
• To wholly encourage truthfulness: in case of an honest confession in a perfect offense, the punishment should be reduced to a minimum or to zero, accustoming to the thought: honesty is more advantageous than deception.
• From a young age to cultivate efficiency, life on schedule; violation of the regime - for valid reasons. Learn to count time with a small margin to leave the house on time (a real man arrives at the right place on time and is not late).
• To accustom to the rule: do not give the word to be brave, but give - hold on. Here, a personal example is especially important: all the promises given to the son are strictly enforced.
• Do not ridicule, do not insult, do not humiliate your son; never use epithets and replicas of the type "idiot", "dumbass", "stupid", "scum", "puppy", "stupid yet," "milk on the lips is not dry," etc. They have the ability to sink into memory for life.
• At the same time, to instill tolerance for people, their behavior, opinions, especially to mistakes, blunders, and shortcomings. Restrained, but firmly stop the mocking, arrogant, arrogant manifestation of attitude towards people. Indulgence is a very masculine quality.
•  From 6-7 years to include in the discussion of general household issues (arrangement of furniture in the apartment, the order of major purchases, the organization of summer holidays, etc.).
• As soon as possible begin to identify business and creative inclinations, but do not impose your choice of training violently; Do not be afraid of switching from one occupation to another: many do not immediately find their calling.
• To buy a lot of different tools, simple mechanisms, devices, parts and materials for repair work and crafts, to master with their son all these tools and devices.
• Show an example of the ability to control yourself: I do what I do not want, but it is necessary; I do not do what I want, but it's harmful.
• Do not reproach in passing, on petty occasions the roof of your house, the content, food, clothing, etc. Such a conversation can take place only in exceptional cases, should be started in a serious tone without unnecessary emotions.
• To promote active communication between the son and his peers, who have proved themselves on the positive side and have not compromised themselves with anything serious. Welcome the visits of his friends to the house.
• Encourage tourist trips, trips to sports camps, leave the house only with obvious signs of illness.
• Welcome any opportunity to earn money honestly, if it does not harm your studies.
• To start to take care of women from a small age (for mother, sister, etc.), for example, to submit slippers, together with the son to choose gifts for women, to encourage the production of gifts with their own hands, etc.
• Do not obstruct, do not dissuade your son in his desire to help someone, give something, help someone out, pay attention to a person, even if it requires something to sacrifice, to sacrifice one's own. To help a person in a difficult moment, substituting a shoulder is one of the main masculine qualities.​