1. To take a child without a doubt means to love him not because he is handsome, intelligent, capable, excellent, assistant and so on, but simply because he is!

2. Do not interfere in the business that the child is engaged in if he does not ask for help. By his non-interference you will inform him: "You are all right! You, of course, will manage! "

3. If the child is difficult and he is ready to accept your help, be sure to help him. In doing so, take on only what he can not do himself, leave the rest to him. As the child learns new activities, gradually transfer them to him.

4. Tomorrow the child will do himself what he did with his mother today, and precisely because it was "with my mother." The zone of affairs "together" is the gold reserve of the child, his potential for the near future.

5. Gradually, but steadily take off your care and responsibility for your child's personal affairs and pass them on to him.

6. The personality and abilities of the child develop only in the activities that it does at its own volition and with interest.

7. There are no situations when a child can be struck. Yes, it is known that Pushkin tore up his children, but then it was considered the norm.

8. You can express your dissatisfaction with the individual actions of the child, but not the child as a whole. You can condemn the actions of the child, but not his feelings, however unwelcome or impermissible they may be. Dissatisfaction with the actions of the child should not be systematic, otherwise it will grow into a rejection of it.

9. Hug the child several times a day, 4 hugs are absolutely necessary for everyone just for survival, and for well-being you need at least 8 hugs a day! And, by the way, not only to the child, but also to the adult.

10. Think of several activities with the child or a few family matters, traditions that will create a zone of joy. Do some of these activities or cases regularly, so that the child waits for them and knows that they will come necessarily if he does not do something very bad. Cancel them only if a really palpable offense has occurred.

11. The best punishment for a child is to deprive him of the good, and not to make him bad.

12. Children are much more than we adults need to move, explore objects, try their strength. To forbid such actions is like trying to block a river full of water. It is better to take care of directing its current in a convenient and safe channel.

13. Children not only need order and rules of behavior, they want and wait for them! This makes their life understandable and predictable, creates a sense of security.

14. A child is warm when his needs are understood. One of the most important is the freedom to explore the world and get impressions. The child explores his possibilities - and quietly raises the bar. When he is small, he wants to climb the tree higher, growing up - to run away with friends to the neighboring yard, becoming even older - to return home later than usual. It depends very much on how parents behave. Notations and prohibitions are powerless.

15. All that we wish to change in children, we should first of all carefully check: is this not what it would be better to change in ourselves. For example, our pedagogical enthusiasm. Probably, it is better to direct it to yourself.

Julia Gippenreiter